Pastor Enoch Adeboye, the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, has talked frankly on the value of sustaining romance in marriage—even in the face of spiritual responsibilities.
Adeboye said with all honesty that, even in their private time, him and his wife Foluke still appreciate their love with pet names, stressing that “anointing does not reduce romance.”
Intimacy and romance should be prioritized by married couples, especially pastors, he encouraged in his passionate message to ensure their marriages stay lively and joyous.
He gave advice, saying, “Don’t let romance die
The pastor in a Friday post on his official Facebook handle, disclosed that he has a pet name that he calls his wife, Foluke, when they are alone and that anointing does not reduce romance in marriage.
He explained that some pastors abstain from love pursuits because they feel it takes their attention away from their spirituality. Citing the Bible as an example, Adeboye emphasized that being anointed shouldn’t diminish the desire for romance.
He stated, “Some pastors don’t often go on dates with their spouses because they view dating as a distraction from their spiritual lives.”
He advised couples to rekindle their connection and spend quality time together, ensuring that their marriage remains fun and loving:
“Once in a while, compose a poem for your spouse… Have a pet name that you call each other behind closed doors.”
Finally, he shared a personal detail, underscoring that even in their senior roles, he and his wife still prioritise their bond as lovers:
“Up until today, there is a pet name my wife calls me when we are alone… When we are alone, we are lovers, not Daddy G.O and Mummy G.O.”
Adeboye highlighted that being a Christian doesn’t remove the need for romance in marriage, urging couples, especially pastors, to not neglect intimacy for spiritual duties. He cited Isaac’s playful interaction with Rebekah in Genesis 26:8 as an example of balancing anointing with romance.
“The fact that you are a Christian does not in any way take the romance out of your marriage. Marriage is the only institution where romance and intimacy are allowed between a man and a woman.
Some pastors hardly go on dates with their spouses because they consider such a romantic activity as a distraction from their focus on spiritual matters.
“Some of them don’t even play with their spouses anymore. Beloved, the anointing does not reduce the need for romance in marriage.”
He encouraged couples to rekindle their connection, reminding them of the joy and fun they shared before life’s responsibilities took over. He stresses the importance of making time for each other and keeping their bond strong.
Isaac was an anointed man of God and a successful businessman, yet in Genesis 26:8, the Bible says he was being romantic with his wife:
And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech, king of the Philistines, looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah, his wife.
“Don’t become too rigid in your marriage; don’t have more fun elsewhere without your spouse. Make the times that you and your spouse spend together so much fun that you are always looking forward to seeing each other again. If you are married, remember how you used to talk for long hours with your spouse before you got married and had children; revive that relationship again.
“Your spouse is still the same fellow you were very fond of, and the things you loved in him or her are still there. Don’t let all the cares of this life distract you from the gems in your spouse.
He suggested simple acts like writing notes, using pet names, and surprising each other to keep the romance alive.
Adeboye shared that even he and his wife still do this, advising couples to be intentional about nurturing love in their marriage.
Write a poem for your spouse once in a while and recite it to him or her in a romantic situation. Occasionally add some unexpected surprises to spice things up. To make them smile when they open their bag at the office and find the message, write a letter and slip it in.
Have a pet name that you both use while you’re alone. My wife has called me a pet name while we are alone, even up to this day. She also has a pet name that I call her, and she responds every time with a sweet smile.
“We are lovers, not Daddy G.O., when we are by ourselves.
Your marriage can be like to heaven on earth if you and your spouse are deliberate about remaining the lovebirds that you were when you first got married. Don’t let the romance die,” he concluded
